Posted by devil | Monday, February 16, 2015 |
Posted in
Relationship,
Relationship tips,
zap
There are some people who not only feel comfortable in a relationship; they also feel comfortable when they are not in one. This means that their boundaries are strong enough for them to open up and to experience intimacy without losing who they are.
And when they are not in a relationship, their sense of self is going to be strong enough for them to enjoy their own company. However, if one doesn't have a strong sense of self, it is going to be a challenge for them to have a healthy relationship with another person or to enjoy their own company.
What Can Happen
This can then set up one to go from one extreme to the other or they could end up being stuck on one side of the spectrum. On one side, it could mean that one is almost always in a relationship and on the other, it could mean that they end up doing everything they can to avoid them.
 |
| Why Do Some People Feel Empty When They Are Not In A Relationship? |
Yet, it can all depend on how they feel as to whether they choose one option or another. If, for example, one struggles with the feeling of being abandoned, it could cause them to do everything they can do be with someone. But if they struggle with feeling smothered, it could mean that they avoid being with others.
Posted by devil | |
Posted in
Relationship,
Relationship tips,
zap
Strange how something so life-altering comes stealing in like fog that rolls in and grows denser until it obscures the landscape; you wake up one day and it feels like a stranger is in your bed. Gone is the thrill of seeing their face, of robbing one more minute of time from the day to cuddle or of a shared yawn. Gone; what happened, where did the road turn, taking you to this strange place?
Barring some major event that you can't ignore, when relationships end the norm is that you just drift apart, barely noticing when it really ended. When did you stop paying attention, or realize you had less and less to talk about? When did you stop wondering why it can't be like it was before? About the time these thoughts become your reality, you mentally left with your heart in your hands; safe from any further breakage. Maybe you didn't say so; it's like a ballgame that should be over, called by run rules. Too far gone to make a comeback and win. You keep playing the game because you started playing on a team and it's all you know how to do; but not because your heart is in it.
 |
| Love Doesn't Live Here Anymore - There's No Reason to Stay |
Posted by devil | Saturday, January 31, 2015 |
Posted in
Men,
Relationship,
Relationship tips,
zap
Your relationship has entered its fourth year and the two of you have planned a romantic dinner to mark the occasion.
Everything was sailing smooth until you saw her come down the stairs in a dress way too skimpy for her, sporting an obnoxious hairdo and makeup like it's war paint. She flutters her eyelashes in hope of a compliment or two from you, and you comply awkwardly with a cliche like, "You look great, sweetheart".
Here are 9 such things (in random order) that men are all the time dying to say, but can't seem to get it out of their system.
 |
| 9 Things men hesitate to tell women |
Posted by devil | Tuesday, January 27, 2015 |
Posted in
Marriage,
Relationship,
sex,
Sexuality,
zap
From time immemorial a woman's virginity has been her prized possession. Throughout history one will read about cultures across the world placing a high value on a a woman's virginity. But times are changing and for an increasing number of young men and women, sex is no longer the kind of taboo that it earlier used to be. And much to our older generation's charging, pre-marital sex is a definite reality of our times.
In fact, these days, couples who are in a relationship have no qualms about getting sexually intimate with each other even though there may be no guarantee that the relationship will culminate into marriage. However, when it does come to the question of marriage, especially in the case of arranged marriages, a woman with a sexually active history still raises eyebrows and sets tongues wagging. What then is the big deal about virginity and how does this kind of a mentality hamper the lives of numerous women?
 |
| Virginity, a must for a happy marriage? |
Posted by devil | Sunday, January 25, 2015 |
Posted in
Relationship,
Relationship tips,
women,
zap
Is the excitement and mystery of being with a bad boy worth the heartache? Or should you simply deem this phase as rebellious and move on?
Through time immemorial bad boys are known to leave a trail of teary-eyed women with broken hearts behind them. Remember Brad Pitt in Fight Club or Ryan Gosling in the more recent Crazy, Stupid Love? Truth be told, women dig jerks. Its true, right? Despite their actions, women cannot resist their charm. It's a classic case of liking everything that is wrong for you. You know you desire that ecstasy and we're all guilty of this fact.
Says psychiatrist Anita Peters, "Bad boys, as we like to call them, may or may not be involved in a number of things like drinking, smoking, excessive partying and women. Every woman would like to fill her life with excitement, and a man who keeps a girl on her toes gives her just that...and more. Ask a girl who's slept with a 'bad boy!' However, a bad boy's allure is limited. It might even end at just being a childish fantasy."
 |
| Why do women always fall for the bad boy? |
Posted by devil | Saturday, January 17, 2015 |
Posted in
Men,
Relationship,
Relationship tips,
relationship tips for men,
women,
zap
As most matrimonial ads typically go by the, "fair, slim and homely girl needed for a well-settled boy" phrase, women's demands have undergone a drastic change.
"Tall, dark and handsome" has now been replaced by "broadminded, understanding and a good cook." While both men and women are known to fantasise about their prospective spouses, what makes it more exciting are the expectations they have.
Women, in recent times, are known to outnumber men in listing out modern expectations from their prospective spouse, cooking being one of them.
In a recent survey conducted by a matrimonial website, a whopping 51.9 per cent women said that they want their prospective spouses to help in household chores. While, 39.5 per cent want a spouse with culinary skills. Marriage counsellor Vedika Shreshtha, says, "The modern woman is independent, smart and speaks her heart, that makes her demands different from the stereotypes. Hence, if she thinks her prospective spouse should fulfill certain criteria, why not?"
 |
| 10 things today’s women want from men |
Posted by devil | Monday, January 12, 2015 |
Posted in
Men,
Relationship,
Relationships,
women,
zap
According to a new research, when looking for a potential partner, women tend to be more shallow than men — they go for a guy's appearance rather than his nature. We ask women if they agree...
Men are often accused of being superficial; of choosing women on the basis of how they look rather than who they are. However, if the findings of a recent survey are to be believed, women are equally, if not more, guilty of being superficial when it comes to picking a 'potential date'.
What the survey says...
The survey was conducted by an international dating service to find out what men and women find most desirable in a potential date. Flabby abs was a massive no for women; they wanted their men in shape, by playing sports such as kick-boxing and bodybuilding. Women also preferred men who were sensitive and wanted to have children in the future. On the other hand, men weren't as concerned about physical appearance as they were about how much skin is on the show. Men admitted that women are most likely to get their attention by flashing some leg or cleavage, regardless of how slim or attractive they are. So, are women as shallow as the survey indicates? We asked a few of them and this is what they had to say.
 |
| Women only go for a guy's looks? |
Posted by devil | Saturday, December 27, 2014 |
Posted in
Relationship,
relationship tips for men,
zap
If you want to win a woman you need to avoid certain things.
Sex and dating coach Melanie Curtin - founder of vixen on the loose - has revealed ten things that men should avoid while hitting on women.
Men should avoid negging - also known as negative comments - women, as they only work on women suffering from low self-esteem, which means that it is manipulative, underhanded, and sometimes really mean, the Huffington Post reported.
Men should also avoid telling the women, they are trying to seduce, about the money they make.
Curtin also revealed that men who insult themselves are a put-off for women.
They should also avoid touching the woman's lower back, elbow or shoulders.
 |
| Things to avoid while seducing a woman |
Posted by devil | Sunday, December 21, 2014 |
Posted in
Dating,
Dating tips,
Dating tips for men,
life style,
Men,
Relationship,
Relationship tips,
relationship tips for men,
relationship tips for women,
Relationships,
women,
zap
Here are a few things you should steer clear of when you are struggling to impress your girl
Worried you will end up offending her with your histrionics on your first date? Well, one of the easiest way to have a successful date is to remember to be yourself.
She is probably just as nervous as you are and this knowledge will take you a long way. Be your chivalrous best and keep in mind that a little flattery can't hurt. But always be sincere with your compliments because mindless, meaning less flattery can work against you. Gift her flowers — yes we know its ancient — but it usually works. Here are a few things you should steer clear of when you are struggling to impress your girl.
 |
| What not to do when trying to impress her |
Posted by devil | Wednesday, March 19, 2014 |
Posted in
Relationship,
Relationship tips,
Relationships,
zap
The following is what I think makes a relationship work. I was with the same partner for over forty-five years. This information is merely touching the surface and is based on what worked for me and others that I spoke with who also where in long-term relationships that lasted thirty years or longer.
No one ever said it would be easy to make a relationship work. It takes two people and it is a full-time job. Don't let anyone tell you otherwise. A relationship cannot be one- sided. Right out the gate trust is a key factor in any relationship, without it there is no relationship. You both have to be 100% committed and be willing to make sacrifices and compromises. Never be afraid to tell your partner how you feel. If something is bothering you talk it out, you may not like the out come but that is where compromise can come into the picture.
When making decisions to do something always take into consideration how it will affect your partner and relationship. You need to remember when in a relationship that it is not always just about you. Your actions can affect your partner just as much as they affect you.
Communication! Communication! Communication, always keep it open and going never let it die! Communication skills to not happen overnight. It takes a lot of hard work on both partners end and it continues throughout your entire relationship.
Never ever lie, it is better to tell the truth and take what happens and work it out because nine out of ten times if you do lie it will come back and bite you in the ass and your trust goes right out the window. Remember without trust there really is no relationship.
Never act like you are better than your partner, you may be better educated or be better off financially but do not ever flaunt it. You need to remember you are a couple not just two individuals. Have respect for one another and always respect each others privacy. Never plaster your disagreements or spats on social media. Do not post photo's that are embarrassing. Once it is out there, it is out there forever and you can not take it back.
When you get into a fight and you will (don't believe someone when they tell you that they never fight everyone does one time or another) do not go running to family members and tell them all the details. The reason I am telling you this is because you will makeup and everything will be fine, however, your family members will remember every word you said about your partner and every time they see your partner they are going to remember what you said. So keep your family members out of the personal parts of your relationship. Over time if you continue running to family members their attitude towards your partner is going to change. If they had a good relationship they no longer will.
One Major thing to remember is in order for your relationship to thrive you have to constantly keep working on it. You need to keep it fresh and exciting.
Posted by Zainab Amin | Saturday, February 22, 2014 |
Posted in
Long Distance Relationship,
Maintaining a Long Distance Relationship,
Relationship,
Relationship tips,
zap
My boyfriend and I have been in a long distance relationship for quite a long time. We met almost 10 years ago in NY. We had an instant attraction, it was love at first sight. We spent a wonderful summer together, and even though we didn't expect it to go any further than a summer romance it was terribly hard to say goodbye.
He flew back to his home country and 2 weeks after that I went home too. We still kept in touch, but school, work, home, friends and just regular routine took its toll. Slowly but surely we stop messaging each other. I went back to NY the next summer but he didn't.
They say time is the best doctor and I agree. The pain wasn't as sharp anymore, but I couldn't get him out of my mind. He started messaging me out of the blue, and I felt butterflies in my stomach again. But we were oceans apart, both teens, not knowing how to work it out. At that time I was dating someone so was he but I wasn't happy. Neither was he.
Posted by Zainab Amin | Thursday, February 20, 2014 |
Posted in
breakup,
Finish a Relationship,
Relationship,
zap
After going through a terrible break up, sometimes we wonder to ourselves, "is there a right time to call after a break up?" For most, it is usually not necessary because it will only bring back the tears and the pain. Others believe it should be avoided at all costs if you really want to let go of the relationship and become more confident with yourself. It would really depend on the person if he or she wishes to call after a break up, but there are some instances where you should not call or else your ex would assume you are calling because you are lonely and miss him or her after all. Do not allow them to believe that you can not stand on your own, so before picking up that receiver and dialing his or her number, take into consideration these questions.
Posted by Zainab Amin | |
Posted in
Finish a Relationship,
How To,
Relationship,
zap
When you feel a relationship has come to its very end, the best thing you can hope for is a peaceful break up. You hoping that means that you are a kind individual who would like to stay friends with the future ex regardless of that person's shortcomings during your relationship.
Another option would be the hurtful method. The one where you wish to inflict as much pain and damage possible to your future ex and the only reason to stay in touch with that person would be for rubbing his or her nose in it with any occasion. You may not be such a kind person.
Now, in many cases the other half of the relationship has no idea his/her world is coming to an abrupt end at the hands of the loved one. Tough luck.
In order for the break up to be successful, and by that I mean you being single at the end of the operation, you have to know your other half and act accordingly. Don't hurt her feelings whenever possible and be honest. If you found someone else just say so, most people will be hurt but will also not fight for it.
You can always use the 'it's not you, it's me' line, but that doesn't really work at all especially on women, since they tend to become protective over the matter and before you know it you're back to square one.
Do not insult each other. It does little honor to you to treat disrespectfully the person you were holding in your arms not too long ago. You're insulting yourself. Although if infidelity or lying or in general hurtful things are at the core of your break up, insults are not only permitted but also encouraged. That's because you unload your anger and project it. It may not be kind, but it will bring some sort of release, otherwise you'll carry on the frustration.
There's no recipe for break up. I cannot simply write some words that you recite to the other one and magic happens. If you're a jerk you don't need this, you can simply kick him or her out. If you want a decent break up then state your reasons, perhaps there may be a communication between you two.
Whatever the case, just think about the other one in terms of friendship, not war. Who knows, in time you may come to need him or her again and it's best to not close the door.
Oana is a member of Lacartes.com - an online community where people can meet new people and stay connected to friends, families and share photos, updates, reviews and more. Breaking up is the hardest part in a relationship. Nobody wants to get there, however, it will happen at some point. Here are a few tips that could be useful to you if the dreaded situation appears. This article can only be reproduced in its entirety when the link to lacartes.com is live at all times.
Posted by Zainab Amin | |
Posted in
Date Nights,
Dating,
Dating tips,
How To,
Relationship,
Struggling Relationship,
zap
If you are experiencing some difficult times in your relationship, trying a date night could be just the thing to put some life back into it. Even if you are thinking of bringing an end to your relationship you may find that doing a date night could bring the two of you closer together again. Of course making the right or wrong date night decisions can make or break any effort to save your relationship.
The purpose of doing date nights is to step away from the issues that are causing problems between you. The two of you need to get out alone, if there are kids get a baby setter. This is your time to be who you were when you first met so try to avoid any bad vibes from outside sources that might ruin it for you.
Posted by devil | Wednesday, February 19, 2014 |
Posted in
Cheating,
Extramarital Affairs,
Infidelity,
Relationship,
zap
Sometimes suspicion and mistrust can ruin your relationship with your girlfriend. But if the matter is serious and the nagging suspicion is impossible to ignore, here are few steps to figure out if your fears are real:
1. If she turns secretive and tries to guard her conversations on the phone, leaves the room everytime she gets a call on her cell
2. If you call or text her first all the time and she doesn't bother to do so then that is a bad sign
Posted by devil | Thursday, February 13, 2014 |
Posted in
Relationship,
Valentine,
Valentine Day,
Valentine's Day,
Valentines Day,
Valentines Day Celebration,
zap
It's that time of the year yet again, when red becomes everyone's favourite colour and everything starts looking like hearts.
And if you're one of those who dread walking out of the house because everything about
Valentine's reminds you of how single you are — fret not — here's a list of things you could do to enjoy the festival of
PDA in all your single glory!
Have a house party
If you're the type who doesn't like to hang out alone, why not invite some friends over for a singles' party? As cliched as it sounds, you could even try having an all-guy gaming session or an all-girl pajama party or just have all your single friends over to hang out.
Movie anyone?
Okay, let's face it. You're one of those who actually feel sad about not having a date on Valentine's. Well, pamper yourself with some sympathy then — yes you read right! If you have nobody to listen to you crib about being single on
V-Day and if that's all you want — rent out some super
romantic films and cry yourself a river about how beautiful love is. It will definitely make you feel better and you don't have to tell anyone about this ever!
Have an evening in
Stepping out on the evening of Valentines is probably a bad idea even if you just want to grab a quick cuppa. Short of heart shaped confetti raining atop your head, everything cheesy is bound to happen to you, including uncomfortable coffee-shop PDA and long waiting hours, almost everywhere. So why not stay in for a bit, make yourself a delicious cup of cinnamon coffee (or whichever way you like it) and cook yourself an elaborate meal.
Posted by Zainab Amin | Tuesday, February 11, 2014 |
Posted in
boyfriend,
February 14th,
Girlfriend,
love,
Relationship,
Valentine Day,
Valentine's Day,
Valentines Day,
zap
1) It really is a holiday, gentlemen - It's rude to forget that it's Valentine's Day and then try to excuse it by saying it's not a "real" holiday. It's official to her and the rest of the world and you're surrounded by hearts, flowers and pink and red everything everywhere you go 24/7 the two weeks before February 14th. There really is no excuse and even a hand written love letter is better than showing up with nothing. Now you may be one of those guys who say that you don't want to be pressured into giving flowers on a certain date. You like to be spontaneous. If that's the case, you'd better actually show up with that bouquet to put in her loving arms and preferably before March 1st.
2) Big box of chocolates and diets don't mix - Just because the commercials tell you that picking up a huge box of Valentine chocolates will win you romance points with your woman doesn't mean that it will. Most women are trying so hard to stick to their New Year's resolutions of diet and exercise and that red and lace box might as well be a rude ticking time bomb. Instead of getting her a tub of the cheap stuff, just get her a few pieces of the expensive kind and tape them to a gift card for a manicure/pedicure at her favorite salon or even better, a full body massage. She'll get to indulge just a little without the guilt and she'll feel so good when she comes home from the spa that she'll have more love for you!
3) Tacky lingerie is rude, rude, rude - The truth is no matter how well you know your woman, you don't know what's nice and what isn't when it comes to her lingerie. It's all going to look terrible and that means no romance for you! So save yourself the embarrassing conversation with the saleswoman. Just get her a gift card so she can pick out her own sexy outfit that she can bring home and put on as a surprise for you. And men, don't even think about looking in the crotchless or edible underwear section. Of course, if you have that kind of relationship then let her buy it and make it her Valentine's present to you. There's somebody - and something for everybody.
4) Ladies, be grateful for what you get - It's rude to expect a certain kind of present for Valentine's Day. It's okay to drop hints even big ones, like leaving out a certain ad or magazine. Most men appreciate this because they struggle with the whole gift process whereas we women seem to come by it naturally. And some men are smart enough to just flat out ask you what you'd like but that doesn't necessarily mean you're going to get it. He may have realized he doesn't have the cash and needs to save up to buy it for your birthday. Or he really might think that what he came up with is better than what you wanted. It rarely will be but it's your job to smile pretty and say thank you to him with a big hug and kiss because honestly, anything else would be rude.
5) He's going to do exactly what you say - Ladies, it's rude if you tell your man that he doesn't have to buy you anything for Valentine's Day and then get mad as a wet hen when he doesn't. It's not that men are clueless that way. You're the one being ridiculous thinking that he's a mind reader who will know that you really didn't mean it. If you want a present, say it loud, say it proud! Men do not want to be in the dog house on the most romantic day of the year especially when you're the one who put him there! If you really don't want him to get you anything, then maybe the two of you can make an agreement ahead of time that you'll do something nice for each other like cooking a wonderful meal together or writing letters saying what you love about the other person. Cut the man a break and get what you really want because that's just more love for you! Really.
Miss Lora, "The Trailer Trash Miz Manners", is the author of "Y'all Are Rude!" a comedy advice book on Amazon & Kindle based on her 1,000,000+ hits web series' "Y'all Are Rude!" and "The Southern Guide to Internet Dating" at http://www.MissLora.com. She is a Southern Communication Expert, Dating and Life Coach, stand up comedian and air personality who's been on national TV and radio and is the co author of "Power Lines: What to Say in Problem Situations" (Harper Collins).
Posted by Zainab Amin | |
Posted in
family,
Loved Ones,
Relationship,
zap
It's great to be able to motivate yourself to achieve your fitness goals, improving your quality of life along the way. While we can motivate ourselves, sometimes it's hard for our loved ones to get motivated. We owe it to them to get them active and improving their health. Whether it's our aging parents or our children it's important to instill a healthy mindset. Here are ten reasons why you should be motivating your loved ones to get up, get active, and on the path to better health!
1. One reason to get the children in your life active is because their "weight fate" may be decided at an early age, even before kindergarten. It's important to instill in them an active mindset that will set them up for a healthy future.
2. Your parents have always been there for you from taking care of you when you are sick to bailing you out of jail, now it's your turn to repay the favor. As our parents age they will of course get less active. I know reruns of Gilligan's Island and Mash are great but you need to get them exercising to improve their quality of life!
3. Getting everyone in your life active can save you a ton of money! In 2008 the average medical cost for an obese individual was $1,400 more than a normal weight individual!
Posted by devil | Monday, February 3, 2014 |
Posted in
Dating,
Marriage,
Relationship,
Relationship tips,
relationship tips for men,
relationship tips for women,
zap
From obsessing over your career to being the self-appointed change-maker in his life, you might be driving him to call it quits
There are dos and don'ts in a relationship. If you are finding the latter list of conventions more common in your behaviour, then you are most likely to meet a dead-end with your happily-everafter dream soon. Don't ruin your perfectly fine relationship with these repugnant ways.
Stop nitpicking This is the first relationship red flag. If you pick holes about everything from what he wears to how he speaks, bear in mind nobody wants to be around a nag, and not if she is a girlfriend, for sure. You will give him the impression that he winds you up more than soothes your nerves. You may argue that he is nice, but doesn't meet the criterion of the perfect guy you always dreamt of being with. That surely doesn't give you the licence to be the change maker in his life. Preventing him from hanging out with his crazy friends, or stopping his videogame sessions in an attempt to stabilise him will one day get the better of your relationship. We suggest, give him some space and enjoy yours.
Posted by devil | Friday, January 17, 2014 |
Posted in
Relationship,
Religion and Spirituality,
sex,
Sexuality,
Taj Mahal,
Tantra,
zap
Would you like to have a lover who intoxicates your body and transports your mind and soul beyond time and space?
Are you ready to make love to a God or Goddess? An ancient Indian Tantric philosophy and its wisdom say, "When we see each other as a God and Goddess, we will create awesome music, as the sacred oil is poured into the cherished altar."
Looking deeply into each other's sparkling, vivacious eyes, you experience an extreme intense energy from deep within your being. As you create a beautiful dance with your lover, your body triggers a profound energy to run up your spine. The energy flows and wraps around your heart and envelops your exquisite breasts and engulfs your lover's chiseled pectoral muscles. Totally connected with each other body to body, mind to mind and soul to soul, you experience perfect oneness. In this state of deep-seated rapture your energy keeps flowing through to your throat and then to your third eye, out through the top of your head to merge with the transcendent. This sexual meditation is... physically, emotionally, divine euphoric ecstasy!
Here are 4 tips to achieve a profound sexual experience.
